Brent,
Know for me grieving facial muscle control has been far harder than grieving hearing loss for me. It may be hard for him to understand this ... nevertheless he will still need to grieve the loss of hearing and be supported.
The fact that his facial nerve was preserved is actually
very good news. Hopefully he will realize this when eventually he
feels like smiling.
If he does cry with grief, over the hearing loss, and there are tears in BOTH eyes know this is also good news ... many of us never get tears from emotion (or even chopping onions) in the AN side eye after surgery. Try to remind him of his blessings and the
positive outcome.
As the caregiver- be sure to speak to others and don't do this alone (as my husband, my caregiver, had too). I am not sure if you are staying at Seton Hall- but in the basic kitchen (no stove if I remember)- there is a great place to meet other caregivers who are also supporting their special acoustic neuroma patients… while popping into microwave, for them, something to eat.
We have 2 other ANA members at House right now- one in their own room now (doing well) the other still in ICU (had surgery a day later). My hope is when they get to Seton- new friendships will form there.
Know that it does get better. Hang in there. We are here for you (the caregiver) and Jay (the guy who feels he has been hit by a MACK truck right now!!!
) at the end of a post… on line here.
DHM