Lauren -
I don't think you are complaining at all, just looking to hear others' experiences.
Ken is right. You're only a few weeks post op, so the puffiness and tenderness should go away - probably by the time you're ready to start wearing your device/processor (BP100).
If you doctor isn't concerned, that's the main thing. You're new at this, I assume he's not
I wasn't constantly aware of the presence of my abutment (aka post); at the time of my implant my head was still numb from my AN surgery (although it was 9 months earlier). And today, even though my head isn't numb anymore, I'm still not aware of my abutment. It's just second-nature to me; like a part of me that was always there.
You will notice that by the time your site is healed the skin will actually end up being closer to your abutment than it is now. The depressed area about the abutment - also referred to as a divot by some of us on the Forum - won't be so sunken by the time your 90 days are up. Your abutment will end up being about 1/8" away from your skull. I was initially shocked that it was so close to my head and was concerned that my device wouldn't work, but my doc explained that this was exactly how it was supposed to look.
So, have faith. You're doing fine
Jan