Hi Angela:
Fatigue and headaches are very much a part of my life. I am nearly nine years post op after removal of my AN. My recovery took ages and that was pushing myself to the limit. At the time of my surgery my boys were 4, 7, 10, 12, 14 and I was eager to get on with my life and being their mother. God had other plans. I was forced to take it slow - in hospital for two weeks, recuperating at my parent's place for five weeks just learning how to regain my balance and walk stairs, then home again with A LOT of help. Two of my boys were with friends for two months during the time my Hubby was at work. I simply did not have the energy to care for them. Meals were brought to me for two months as well by church folks who were fantastic.
It took years for me to feel someone 'normal' whatever normal is post AN. I have had to deal with an abundance of headaches/tinnitus which didn't help the fatigue either. Fatigue is just a part of my life - I need a lot of rest and am blessed to be able to stay at home and not have to go out to work (we live a frugal lifestyle, living simply but contentedly :-)
I do feel that it is hard for people to understand why I am often tired but that's ok....that is why we have this forum to encourage one another. I also find that you have to look after yourself and, when I am asked to help at functions where there are a lot of people and it's busy, I just have learned to say no. This has been a huge thing for me to be able to say no. Helping others in our church one on one is a good fit for me so that is what I quietly do.
OK, I'm rambling but I hope this encourages you a little to take care of yourself. You may want to print off some responses for others to read (your co workers/family). That has been helpful for me.
All the best!