From my perspective, both as a patient and previous caregiver, I would add to the good suggestions you have been given, two ideas:
1) Let your family know that will be okay, especially after the first couple of days being home, that it is OKAY to wait to do something until YOU ask. At some point in the healing, it is important to for you to take over doing things for yourself. As nice as it may be to be waited on hand and foot, it tends to slow down the healing process. More importantly, you'll never have a clue has to how you are healing if you don't try and fail, or try and succeed.
After two weeks in ICU and just one night in a regular room, they let me go home. I could barely speak, barely walk. I had no idea if I could make it up the stairs at the house, but by God, I wanted to be home to rest. My dear wife just walked head of me, went up the five stairs opened the door and just watched. She's a special ed teacher and felt she should wait until I asked for help. She was right.
2) Talk to a couple of friends or distant family members to be caregivers to the caregivers. In other words, ask them to periodically call and, instead of asking about how you are doing, ask how they are doing. When my sister was taking care of our mom in the final months of mom's life, everybody would call or email and ask about mom. Except me. Each day I asked my sister how she was doing. This gave her the opportunity to vent or cry or simply know that someone was looking after her needs.
I hope this is helpful,
Tod
