Mei Mei ~
Wow! I appreciate you taking the time to walk us through all of your medical tribulations with stubborn, arrogant, ill-informed doctors that gave you poor advice and ultimately caused you suffering and in one horrific case, almost caused your death. A very explicit cautionary tale based on your real-life experiences that we should all consider for future reference. You make the salient point that one must be pro-active in our search for relief from pain and auxiliary problems stemming from AN surgery. Never allow ourselves to be 'rushed' into a procedure and do not accept any physicians advice when it doesn't make sense or just seems counter-intuitive. Ask questions and take notes. Do not be intimidated by white lab coats, titles and diplomas on the wall. We can and should respect doctors for their education, training and experience but we do not need to obey them without question when a procedure seems wrong or a treatment proves to be ineffective. Doctors are human beings and quite fallible. The best ones know this and are humble, endearing themselves to their patients. I was blessed to find a neurosurgeon like this. My doctor and I had never discussed religion or spiritual matters but when I gushed my thanks to him for my wildly successful (zero complications) AN surgery, he waved it away and said that he gave God the credit, adding "I just held the scalpel" . That is humility. This neurosurgeon was my age (late 60's) with 35 years experience and a sterling reputation. On the flip side of this coin are the the doctors who will never even consider their fallibility and will deny any mistakes or, worse yet, blame the patient, often acting incredulous when a treatment is ineffective, attempting to convince the patient that they are the problem, not the treatment. This is unfortunate but again, we're dealing with fallible human beings and not gods, no matter if a few doctors seem to believe they're the latter. Your experiences, while daunting, are informative and I thank you for sharing them, Mei Mei. I also want to commend you for your fortitude in finding relief through more competent physicians. I trust that your future will be relatively pain-free as you've certainly 'paid your dues'.
Jim