Hi Lisa,
I read your post and my heart and prayers go out to you. My husband and I just got back last week from Los Angeles where he had his 3.5 cm AN removed at House Ear Clinic on July 28th. I can tell you that the only thing that helped my husband and I through this was prayer. I don't know if your spiritual or have a religious affiliation and trust me I don't want to offend, but I can tell you our story. We don't have a church or religious home so to speak, and we don't practice a whole lot of anything, but none of that really mattered. The night before the surgery I literally spoke to God and handed this over to him, I cried a little and confessed how scared I was and amazingly I felt better. My husband woke up a little while later, he had been very restless, and I told him about my prayer and that I felt somehow it had already been answered. He hugged me and tried to sleep, he told me the next morning that as he laid there he did the same thing and a certain peace came over him as well. And God did answer our prayers, Dale is recuperating so well, I'm surprised to look at him sometimes because if you didn't know about the surgery you wouldn't guess that he had one. He has some facial weakness right now and a little dizziness now and then but that's really it.
Lisa, I know how difficult this is for you and your family, I will pray for you. It's the new thing I do.
As for the hospital, here is what I would suggest:
A thin robe if you have one is nice to have.
Definitely something that reminds you of your pet, we missed ours so much.
Soft Kleenex
Comfy underwear or loose pj shorts that you can wear without underwear
The squisshy neck pillow that they sell at places like bed, bath and beyond.
Other than that everyone is right, you will most likely wear the gowns, but after a couple of days you will want something on underneath.
Tell people no smelly flowers, they will bug you.
Your head and body will get hot from laying in bed so the squisshy pillow helps because you can support your neck and I think it's cooler than hospital pillows.
I would suggest slippers, but they usually want you to wear those socks that have the rubber on the bottom.
Typically you will want the room cold so tell others to dress in layers
That's really it. Good luck and God Bless,
nip