Hi Else2m,
I'm glad that you have found our little club, welcome.
I was diagnosed in August 5 years ago, and my Retrosigmoid surgery was not scheduled until the Monday before Thanksgiving. That was perfect timing for me because I didn't want to miss any of my daugheter's volleyball season. I spent the first post-op night in ICU, then I moved to a regular hospital room. On the afternoon of Thanksgiving I was ready to be discharged. I mostly slept upright in the back seat on the 2 hour drive home. I was able to be at the family table for Thanksgiving dinner but don't remember details. It was hard to sleep at night for the first few weeks, not because of pain, just restless from steroids.
I lost the hearing in one ear and my facial nerve had weakness for a few months, it is just an uneaven smile, and eye opening now. I was weak and had blurry vision at first, needed frequent eye drops but that was temporary. At 10 weeks post op I went back to work full time nightshift as a nurse.
At 3 years post op I got the Cros hearing aid and that has helped me at work and out in the public.
Now, I can do anything that I ever did before surgery, but some things make me more tired than they used to. I have ringing in my ear but it is not terrible.
Your baby will be sleeping longer at night by November. If you lose hearing, you will find that you sleep well on the good ear side and might not notice the baby crying or an alarm clock. Once you are home, you will be just focused on resting, walking and eating well. I didn't need constant care at home, just someone to cook at first. Later, I did the cooking to work on my endurance with being up on my feet.
I hope my story gives you more confidence with your plan.