Hi Karen,
Your questions are very familiar to me when I first came upon this forum right after diagnosis three and a half years ago at age 49. At that time I had an 8 mm AN, diagnosed after a lot of hearing issues on my right side led me to an audiologist. This forum was invaluable to me then as it continues to be today, two years after my translab surgery.
It was my good fortune that the tumor was discovered so early, giving me plenty of window for the observation phase of these things. After 3 MRIs, spaced 6 months apart, mine had grown to 11 millimeters and the shape was bringing it very close to my brain stem. At that point, I still fell into safe watch and wait territory, but I was growing uncomfortable letting it continue to grow. I consulted both a neurosurgeon and a GK surgeon. At that point, I had minimally serviceable hearing on the right side, with most low frequency sensitivity gone. I could have waited longer, and the tumor might have stopped growing, but I also feared greater surgery complexity and greater risk of complications if I let the tumor continue to grow.
As you are, no doubt, seeing here, there are a very diverse set of experiences pre-op and post-op. I don't disparage anyone's treatment decisions - it can be agonizing to make a decision - and I am only grateful for all the different opinions and stories that are here. Because I had little hearing to salvage, and because of the orientation of my tumor, I found myself less comfortable, for various personal and perhaps emotional reasons, with GK and other surgical approach options, and I chose the translab option to put all emphasis on preserving my facial nerve (which was fully spared any harm).
I also was fortunate to have good medical insurance that allowed me to look for surgeons across the country. So I used this forum to find centers of excellence where AN surgery is successfully performed frequently. I think this was key to my surgery going exactly as planned, with no post-op complications.
Because my tumor had not yet impaired my vestibular nerve on the right side, I went through all of the very unpleasant experience of post-op vertigo while my brain retrained itself, along with vestibular physical therapy. I felt like I literally lived inside a spinning cement mixer for 2 weeks! As unpleasant as it was retraining my sense of balance and orientation, that was the only thing I had to deal with. I have much gratitude about that as well.
Even with so much going so well for me, I was heavily dependent on my wife to get around for the first 2 weeks. Strict lifting limits, and no driving both for 4 weeks, and needing to hold on to my wife to move from one room to another With no local family, I don't know what I would have done if I were a single parent. Some insurance plans have coverage for visiting, in-home support.
All my best hopes and prayers for your treatment and outcomes. Whichever treatment you ultimately select, find physicians who practice it frequently.
Karl