Autumnbird,
Our stories are somewhat similar. I'm a 60 year old male that first had hearing loss in my right ear at about age 55. I got a hearing aid in the one ear and the ENT never mentioned MRI. Fast forward to September 2021 (60 days after I retired from AT&T after 36 years) I suddenly had a big decline in my right ear hearing to the point I was deaf in that ear and I started getting some right side facial paralysis. At this point the doc ordered an MRI and we discovered I had a 1" tumor on the right side.
I had surgery on 11/30/21 (trans method), amazingly I had zero dizziness or nauseous feelings which is VERY atypical and I was home in 3 days and pretty much normal except for some significant right side facial paralysis, including my right eye. I've got surgery scheduled to add a weight to my eyelid and we'll give the face about 3 months to see if I have any improvement and then we'll look at facial surgery to correct what we can. The doctor at Emory Hospital in Atlanta where I had the surgery isn't too optimistic that I'll get much back naturally.
Other than the facial stuff my recovery has been amazing. I've walked 3-4 miles every day since the day after I arrived home and I was driving in 3 weeks. My scar is healing nicely and already concealed in large part by my hair. I have to say that my recovery has gone much better than I expected and I'm so grateful for that. Now I've got to figure out the face!
I did move forward with the Phonak CROS-P hearing aids and they are working VERY WELL for me. If you can swing the cost, I highly recommend these hearing aids for SS hearing loss.
For anyone facing this surgery, don't be too afraid, it's likely your dread is worse than the final outcome.....