Howdy!
You and I have the same story - I was diagnosed last summer with a 3+cm right side AN. Had lost almost of the hearing in that ear. Went through the same research as you, saw the specialists, yada, yada, yada.
(Trust me - I'm not trying to minimize your efforts, but it just got to the point where I was tired of having yet another 'expert' opinion.)
I had translab surgery on November 7th in Las Vegas. Like you, my surgeon trained in skull base surgery and had performed more than 200 translab surgeries.
The short version: I've had a great result from my surgery. I don't really notice the complete deafness, as compared to the nearly complete deafness. My face is probably at 98% - you have to know me well to see that the right side of my mouth doesn't quite curl up into a complete smile. I have minor dry eye, which is easily soothed by over-the-counter drops (Thera Tears, to be exact). I use the drops once in the morning, once after dinner, and once before bed. I did experience facial paralysis for about two weeks, but my docs were confident that I would recover completely - the tumor was pressing against the facial nerve, but not intertwined in it. I've been back to work teaching full-time since January 3rd, am back to the gym and running, and I'm 'celebrating' my recovery with a half-marathon next month.
If you're comfortable with the idea of translab, I recommend it based on my own experience. I'm feeling great, and I'm pleased to know there isn't a 'wait and see' period.
Hope this helps!
Josh
P.S. - Where are you from? If you look around this site, you'll probably find some others who have had their surgery in the exact same place you will. It helps to hear the voices of experience before you go in!