Someone told me about M*A*R*F years ago ... it stands for
Maintain
A bsolute
Rigid
F lexibility..
flexibility being the key word
in other words ...if you find you can not do something you used to do , find a new way to do it or some other
activity to take it's place ...I used to hike the hills of our farm but can't safely do it ... I now walk the track at
school that is flat and smooth and ride over the hills in my truck getting out to look around some and talk
to the cows and trees
... they don't care if I walk funny and scramble my words ...
last few weeks I have been in complaint mode ...I have had trouble with a quack doctor and getting headache
treatment ... but I try to continue on and laugh when I can ... the danger is not in losing what you did before
but stopping everything and not moving on ...
I can no longer sub at school becasue headaches mean I
take naps daily and sometimes I would have to leave ... I can not keep up with a class all day long ... but
we have lost some of our teachers aides and I go in and volunteer my time ...as a volunteer I can leave if I
have to ...or go lay down... I get the satisfaction of helping out ...just with no pay ... so I have not totally
lost my connection to the kids and school ...just adjusted the way I get it ... for me it is therapy and makes me
feel like I am still of use in my community ...
my 9 and 11 year old are playing Upward Basket ball ... I found out the other day that standing up and catching
chest passes from the 9 year old was bad idea... not like she was throwing the ball like a rocket but as I caught
it I was wobbling back and after a few minutes was in danger of toppling over...solution ... stand with back to
wall... I have some problems with the way things looked coming at me with any speed ...depth perception issues ...
but I kept going ... and you will learn as most of us have what you can do and how to adjust things you can
no longer do as you did before ... and you may be a lucky one with little change ...
Wishing you the best