Hi, Kabby and welcome
I'm with Cindy - contact the ANA for information if you haven't already. And, as Kay said, don't hesitate to ask us anything - that's what we're here for.
I had the option of surgery or radiation (my neurotologist does both) and I chose surgery for various reasons. Interestingly enough, one of the reasons was I totally freaked out by the thought of a frame screwed into my head. Lots of people have done that and they were fine with it, but I just couldn't imagine it.
Ironically I went on - after my AN surgery - to get a BAHA implant, which is basically a screw implanted in the skull. Go figure
Anyway, enough about me . . .
As we like to say on the forum, treatment decisions are a very personal choice and what was right for me - or someone else - might ,or might not, be right for you. You need to do what is best for
you. Educate yourself, weigh the pros and cons of radiation and surgery, find out the statistics related to side-effects, and make sure you pick doctor(s) who have had lots of experience in treating ANs. Obviously if you decide on radiation, make sure the doc has lots of experience in that - and the same thing goes for surgery.
Being diagnosed with an AN - is confusing (I don't know about you, but I had no idea what an acoustic neuroma was) and frightening. The great news is that life after an AN is pretty darn good - and we're all here to prove it to you.
You'll get through this just fine. And BTW, 53 is NOT old!!
Jan