Hi Amy,
My two cents worth, here. When I did research before my surgery, I kept reading about "weakness". Well, when I woke up, I found out that weakness and paralysis are essentially the same thing! Anytime something doesn't work, it is a weakness/paralysis. I was totally paralized on the AN side, and a grade 6. They had lost the nerve in surgery - while testing throughout the surgery, they lost it at the end. They told me that the nerve was intact (critical question to ask your surgeon), and that it would probably come back. However, we would have to see how much and how soon.
I know exactly where you are. It was incredibly scary and confusing. I found it difficult to go out in public, and was always holding my hand in front of my face. Fortunately, after 7 months, my smile started to come back. I'll never forget the thrill on June 4 at 8:20 am when I saw the corner of my mouth move!!!! At one year, I have quite a bit of movement back. I still have what I call paralysis of parts. Others might call it weakness. From what I understand, the first 18 months is the most significant for the return of movement. From this forum, we know that movement will return for several years after surgery.
Regarding a contact lens, I was not able to wear my soft contact lens for a few months. I have very poor vision, so I was pretty freaked out. After about 4(?) months, I was finally able to wear it again. Initially, my lower lid was too weak to hold the lens in place. I couldn't really see the improvement, but after time it must have strengthened enough to hold the lens. That actually has helped keep my eye moisturized, by keeping my cornea covered. When my lens feels dry, I douse it with drops.
I still can't wiggle my nose. I have a dry eye. I can't raise my eyebrows. I also got synkinesis, so there are inappropriate movement with my face. Example, I can't raise my eyebrow but when I smile, my eyebrow raises! I started neuromuscular retraining last month, and I highly recommend it. I didn't understand that my face was actually all knotted up from overactiviation (my term). It appears that the longer you have paralysis, the higher the probability of having synkineses as the face has been trying so long to try to move that it is now overcommensating. I learned to massage my face, which was huge for relaxing it and getting my lip back down where it belonged. Retraining itself is very hard, but I'm up for it. Lot's of time in front of the mirror.
I hope this helps a bit.
Samantha