I really thank you all for your responses so far! And I will follow up on every one of them until this is taken care of. I am first going to secure new insurance as it is not just me. I also have a son with medical issues of his own. I will get that done today.
As far as the insurance- They didn't cancel me, COBRA canceled me. if you called the insurance right now, they would tell you I am current and active up to 3/1/2011. According to them, they wait until cobra sends them the money for the next month to make me current and active until the next month. Yes that confused me too especially since i am being canceled back to feb, 1.
Completely misunderstood the cobra late payment thing. they would only take a check and through the mail, so when I got a late notice i thought it was because of that. it turns out i was always paying but was running one month behind... again something that would have been convenient to know BEFORE the surgery!
I want to rest, and try to recover, I do, but I can't. I am always the over ensured fixer of things so this has really flipped my world upside down.
OK, got to find a new carrier and thanks again for the advice so far.