I chose my doc and my treatment based on my heart, my head, and my "gut".
First choice (doc) was easy. Knew from the moment I met him that he was going to be "my" doctor. He took lots of time with me, was genuinely concerned, very calming, very self-assured, well-qualified and experienced, and I trusted him 100%. He's a great listener and stepped up to the plate to give me what I emotionally needed when I needed it - he's a very serious type of guy but figured out I thrive on humor and made big efforts to provide me with it. Can't say enough good things about him. To this day I have no idea how many AN surgeries he's done, but I know he did a great job for me and my outcome couldn't have been better.
Second choice (radiation vs surgery) was harder - but ultimately I decided on surgery; lots of reasons why, but a big reason was I wanted the tumor out of my head and I wanted to get on with my life. I wanted to meet my side-effects head on and start to deal with them. Surgery was the only way to achieve that.
I never consulted with anyone but my neurotologist - and didn't even meet the neurosurgeon until I'd already booked my surgery. Thankfully he was very similar to my neurotologist, which is one of the things that makes them a great team.
I've never looked back, never regretted my decision, never second-guessed myself.
I believe you'll know when it's "right".
Jan