Hey were very much the same here, both had very large tumors at age 23 and re growths!
When my regrowth was found it was tiny, I had yearly MRI's done for a few years before having it removed, it grew about 1 mm - 1.5 mm per year each year, no growth "spurts" as can happen (lucky for me). I choose to have it removed while still small and my children young so they wouldn't remember me being so sick (also they were too young to fully understand hence weren't scared, I called it a bump in my ear and they didn't question it....not as scary as a brain tumor).
I found surgery the second time around very easy compaired to the first. I had lost all that I could loose the first time around (hearing,balance,facial functioning etc) so there wasn't all that adjustments to get over. Once I recovered from the surgery I returned to where I had been in functioning just prior to the second surgery.
Hope this helps.
Kathleen