Alison,
Thank you for asking for help. That is the first step in your recovery process....The second step is setting up at least 3 interviews (more if you feel uncomfortable) as someone who has interviewed way too much I can certainly tell you that 14 is too much! Once you are comfortable with the # of your interviews, list the options you will receive on a sepate sheet of paper. Best advice go with your gut!
You can receive free opinions if you send your reports and scans to House Ear Instute in LA ( Dr. Freidman) and to UPMC (Dr. Kondzuilka) they both consulted with me for free and would consult with you as well. In 2004, I was deciding whether to have surgery or not (obviously, I was scared to have surgery again as I had a protracted first surgery in 1974). unfortunately, I wasn't as lucky as you are now, I didn't have the support of the ANA forum to advise me, hence the protracted search on my own in 2004.
I came back to the forum in 2012, with a regrowth of my AN, and I must say that they saved me from a maddening experience. The second time around, I got 3 opinions on the Gamma Knife procedure and I even visited Dr. Kondzuilka personally this time before settling and going with my gut with Dr. Michael Sisti. Still, I owe a lot to my friends here on the forum who supported me throughout!
I encourage you to come back and explore the other areas of the the forum like the Physicians section where you can ask specific questions about the Docs that you may be familiar with.
Once again there are many caring people that you have found here on the forum, welcome to "our family" here you will receive tremendous support.
Ask questions, I assure you that while we are not doctors, we can point you in the right direction!
Mike
An additional way you can receive support is by joining an ANA support group meeting sponsored locally.