I think the decision process is definitely one of the most agonizing parts of the journey. Everyone's mileage will vary. There seems to be far more data available now as to outcomes and side effects. Do all the research you can and make an informed decision based on your circumstances, that's all you can do. Nobody can really make the decision but you.
Statistics only tell part of the story though. I made my decision to go with radiation (proton beam) based on the statistics showing a better chance for quality of life after. I was a young 48, active, and wanted to stay that way. As it turns out I was off the bell curve with my radiation results. Balance problems were particularly bad, vertigo, headaches and tinnitus too. I managed to get my balance back close to normal with extreme PT (standup paddleboarding) but the rest remained. My tumor started to regrow 4 years later and I decided to have it taken out the 2nd time. Balance actually improved after surgery, headaches lessened but can flare up, particularly sensitive to weather changes....and red wine...
. The tinnitus changed tone but is still there, white noise now. Left side of my face has a slight weakness and synkenesis (I cry when I eat, especially hot stuff...
).
Everything considered I don't think I would change any of the decisions I made. I did the best with what info I had and what I hoped for an outcome. It didn't work out perfectly but how much of life does?
The toughest thing you will face is how you react to it. Do you let it beat you or do you knock it on it's ass and kick the crap out of it? Almost everything else is out of your hands but THAT you can do something about. I consider myself ridiculously lucky but I can actually say life is better as a direct result of my AN. Where I am now never would have happened otherwise. This isn't a lemon that can easily be made into lemonade but it can happen.
FWIW....... in my case my Doc (Dr McKenna at MEEI) said there was no problem with the surgery from the radiation scars.