Hello! I saw your post and would like to offer my suggestions because I just had surgery 3 weeks ago so everything is fresh in my mind. First off, every person is different and every tumor is different so don't feel like you have to compare yourself to me or anyone else. I am a 46 year old female. I was diagnosed in September with a 3.2 cm AN with mild hearing loss. Honestly, waiting for the MRI results and then to meet surgeons and get a surgery date was the worst part of all of this. WAITING WAS TORTURE FOR ME but now it is behind me and I feel grateful that I can move on with my life. When I found out I needed surgery I did the following: got my affairs in order, got a copy of my medical directive from my lawyer, talked to my kids (teenagers) about what to expect from them (laundry, etc.), asked people to pray for me, had the annointing of the sick from my priest, talked to other people who have had this surgery, stocked up on food and supplies for the house, made a plan with my husband and family members about who would be in charge of what and WALKED A LOT. As my surgery date approached, and because it is cold/flu season, I stayed away from crowds, took care of myself and started to hydrate my body as if I was getting ready to run a marathon. The other thing I did was write a personal note to my main surgeon thanking him for being on my side and for taking an interest in me. This may sound silly, but I felt a connection to my surgeon and really wanted him on "my team." This really helped me. I always felt like he wanted the very best outcome for me. The first thing he said to me the morning of my surgery was "thanks for your note." Finally, I cannot stress this enough, be positive! Relax, take a deep breath, you and your family can do this and a positive approach to everything will make a difference. I hope this helps and if I can offer any other assistance or suggestions, please feel free to reach out to me. God bless and Good Luck!