My facial nerve was severed, so I had the 12-7 (tongue nerve to facial nerve) graft done as soon as I could, about 4 months after my first AN operation. If the nerve had been preserved, I think I would have taken a less is more approach. (Side note: My surgeon told me that there was an 18 month window before the facial muscles would permanently lose tone.)
It's been just about three years now, and the improvement has been gradual, but very noticeable. In my case, the symmetry of my face at rest has improved immensely. It took about 3 months before I started to feel the improvement and noticed little tremors around my lip. At first, it felt like there were little fingers pulling at my paralyzed upper lip all the time. It was incredibly annoying, but it didn't take long to figure out that was part of the healing process. I've noticed that the areas I've had that sensation improved in tone, and would then animate. Along the way, there was more lip, cheek, and tongue biting than I care to admit. That’s improved as the tone has returned, though. Straws are still my best friend, and if it comes in a smoothie, I'll take it!
The raw movement generated from the graft looks kind of like you’re wincing. In my case, I trigger this by pressing the tip of my tongue to the left side of my mouth. It does help with eye closure. I had an eyelid weight inserted when the graft was done, and the doctor removed it this past Fall when I had surgery on my lower eyelid.
I've worked with Jackie Diels after being referred to her by Amanda & Ken. This was well over a year after I'd had surgery. The timing was perfect, as Jackie stressed that it was essential to allow for that much time to pass for the graft to heal before really beginning to work with it. Together we explored how the affected side of my face moves now and developed a program of stretches and exercises that continues to be extremely helpful.
Hopefully, your facial nerve will come back online on its own.
Good luck,
Sam