Hi Amy,
Sorry to hear about your having an Acoustic Neuroma. My AN size and symptoms were similar to yours in Oct. 2021 when I was diagnosed.
I'm also in rural New England, so I had some of the same questions about how to find expertise. I considered Boston hospitals and MDs, as well as the Mayo Clinic (MN). I had surgery at UCSD, choosing to travel to San Diego for the best surgical team in terms of reputation and published outcomes. I felt I could trust in them. It was a great decision for me.
By the way, Tufts U. Medical Center has a surgeon Dr. Carl Heilman that many ANA forum patients have said great things about. Maybe you could consult with them? It's in Medford/Boston area. They have a team, and can discuss surgery or radiation, is my understanding.
(For more on my history, you can search on my nickname (skier) and read other posts. It might give you some ideas. It was an imperfect and slow process, that I went through, I think, but it worked out in the end. I hope you find a doctor you trust soon, to make it easier.)
Your symptoms in your last paragraph all sound typical to me as a patient. The acoustic neuroma has many potential side effects, unfortunately. Everyone has slight variations, but yours all sound familiar.
By the way, if you can get Vestibular rehab (physical therapy), it can help you now and in the long run. There are specialists in neurological problems who can help with balance issues. Try to follow-up on that if you can. (I regret that I waited two years!)
Since surgery, I am deaf in one ear, and I still have tinnitus, but the wonky head/headaches, facial twitches, and balance problems are now in my past. Those are resolved--and the tumor is no longer pressing on the brain stem, so my heart rate is back to normal.
And--the tumor is no longer a threat to my well being as it was removed (total resection). I have adapted and have no regrets. I consider myself lucky. Not too many decades ago, the prognosis for these tumors was much worse.
All best,
Skier