Hi, Sabre:
Let me add my welcome to the forum and also the familiar caveat that I'm sorry you have a reason to be here but glad you discovered us.
Your story is not all that uncommon. Some years ago, I slowly lost hearing in my left ear but assumed it was work-related and/or 'age' and never saw a doctor about it. Then, in early 2006, my symptoms became pronounced (including stabbing pains on one side of my head) and my wife pushed me to see a doctor. After running down a blind alley (sinus) he scheduled me for an MRI and
Viola!, there was an acoustic neuroma, big as life, positively glowing on my MRI scan.
After one disappointing consult with a local neurosurgeon (who will mercifully remain nameless), I was referred by my wife's surgeon (spinal issues) to a New Haven-based neurologist -
Dr. Issac Goodrich - who has over 30 years of experience operating on acoustic neuromas. He was a very compassionate and confident doctor who saw my case as a challenge. He advised that debulking the AN and then radiating it was the safest way to go to spare facial nerves, which were a major concern for me. I hired this surgeon and he operated three weeks later (Hospital of Saint Raphael in New Haven), employing a nerve monitoring assistant. I came out of the surgery with no facial paralysis and almost no noticeable complications. I was home in 5 days, driving within 2 weeks and pretty much back to normal within a month or so. As scheduled, three months later I underwent a series of 26 'low dose' radiation treatments, painstakingly plotted by Dr. Goodrich and Dr. Haas, a very skilled radiation oncologist he works with. The 26 FSR sessions were not fun but painless - and I had no side effects. Now, almost two years post-op, I'm fine.
I'm not a doctor and I can't credibly advise you as to what direction to go in to deal with your relatively small acoustic neuroma, but radiation may be a viable option. It is non-invasive but does carry some risks. Developing cancer is not really one of them, despite some surgeon's opinions on the matter.
Because you live in my area (Connecticut), I'm going to post my neurosurgeon's website so you'll have another source to consider for consultation. Although Dr. Goodrich is a neurosurgeon, he readily refers patients with smaller AN's to a radiation oncologist when he feels they would be better served with radiation as opposed to surgery.
http://www.ct-neurosurg.com/index.htm I hope the information myself and others offer here will be of help to you as you grapple with this medical dilemma. Technology has come a long way and acoustic neuromas can be treated very successfully, today. The good news is that your AN is benign - and treatable, one way or another. Stay strong. I think you'll probably come through this just fine.
Jim