Denise,
You're not alone. My situation was very similar to yours. I cut my head last summer, went in for stitches, they did a CT-Scan for the hell of it and eventually found a 3.5cm AN (No Symptoms at all), They didn't give a choice, it had to be surgery because it was embedded in my brainstem, smashing some of the other nerves and so on. After stage 1 in which they removed the embedded portion from my brainstem by brain swelled and compressed the stem which kept me in the hospital for 31 days, I lost my whole left side, very weak and uncoordinated in addition to the hearing, balance, facial numbness, eye problems, blah, blah, blah. This was last October and now on Feb 1st I go in to have the residual tumor removed. How exciting, huh?
Dr's told me that I am a case study, will be written about in text books and cases like mine only come around once every 10-20 years. Because of my issues, they have now started putting shunts in to some folks prior to surgery, thus, proactively anticipating swelling. I think it sucks too. Everyone says I'm "brave," and "strong" and that's nice, but I still can't get past people calling me "lucky" or saying that "it could be worse." I try to keep a good attitude about it, but I understand your frustration. You're not alone ... I have a full account of my story, if anyone is interested just email me at sryan@villagegreen.com