Julie  I know it's hard to do, but at this point, take it a day at a time. My husband also had an AN, his was much larger, 3.5 cm, and he had surgery in August and is doing great. We have 2 children and he is in sales and works on commission, so I understand your concerns. After his surgery, the first week was the worst, after that he started to feel better and he went back to work 4 weeks after the surgery. No serious side effects. But you will find that recovery and side effects vary greatly. However, the vast majority of people return to their normal lives and are able to work. My husband also tried to pretend that the AN wasn't any big deal. I have chatted with other wives about dealing with the whole thing and we offer each other support. So if you would like to chat, send me a note, be glad to help. Jennifer