***NEWBIES - Please note that this is NOT a common thing that happens in AN surgery - I don't want to freak anyone out here - this is VERY rare!***
I was not told either about my stroke - in fact, he NEVER admitted to this. His colleague who was in the OR off and on (& her guy was there the entire time monitoring my nerves) let it slip to my brother when she came by one morning and he was the only one there. In fact, her exact words were "She's looks pretty good for what all happened..." When Mike began to question her & she realized we had not been informed of anything, she clammed up real fast and couldn't get out of there quick enough. At my one year check-up (after coaching from my SIL who is a nurse), I said to the Dr., "I realized that you saved my life & for that I am VERY grateful...I am NOT one to sue, but for my own peace of mind, I would like to know exactly what happened during my surgery..." He said that nothing at all happened - something my SIL had warned me that he probably would say if he hadn't said anything by then. In my case, a blind person would have been able to see that I had suffered a stroke since I totally reverted back to my childhood, had to relearn how to speak, walk, write (this was a biggie since I taught 1st grade - however, I have PERFECT D'Nelian handwriting on "highway" paper since I had to relearn with my kiddos!
I still write on the board with my left hand b/c it is so much faster!) - basically everything. I do everything now with my LEFT hand (non-dominate), including putting on eye-liner, mascara, & other personal hygiene needs...LOL - ladies, you should try some of this sometime if you are ever bored & would like a challenge!
I was not allowed to drive again until my reaction time on a simulator was under a certain speed...I also remember that they would time me writing my signature - I was so happy to get under a MINUTE!!
I certainly don't say all this to make everyone feel sorry for me - I have a great life & have dealt with all of this for a LONG time! I just went with it & NEVER looked back...Would I have liked for the Dr. to tell me what happened? Yes, but it really didn't matter - he saved my life and I had a LOT of living to do (still do!) and for that I am thankful! Guess that denial by the surgeon sometimes happens to the best of us but we just have to live our lives the best we can...and be grateful for all we have.
K