Hi Dennis
Welcome - this is a great place to learn options.
As a different perspective, I am a watch n'waiter - 37 years old, mother of 4 kidlets (7,5,3,2), full time employed at a big investment bank, seemingly very part time mother right now. I have been told to wait it out - and my doctors (ENT surgeon, radiation oncologist and neurosurgeon - obviously 3 different opinions) don't necessarily view it as delaying the inevitable. [They have done research on watch n' wait ... and firmly believe I have a very good chance of getting to beyond 10 years without treatment. But, alas, won't bore you if it isn't the right choice for you. However, if you want the research I was provided PM your email to me and I will send them on.] I am lucky the tumor is small and intracanicular, and causes no symptoms (save hearing loss, tinnitus, and intermittent balance issues).
I mentioned this on a different newbie's post earlier this week - I like to watch other people make decision, I learn a lot from their decisions and their outcomes.
Funny enough, I have a benign breast tumor (actually ... I hope, no firm diagnosis yet, next week) of about the EXACT same size as my AN - so I am on a double watch n'wait. The race to see which one grows faster. AS someone else mentioned, personality is a big part of the decision making process - I am a bit laid back and laissez-faire, it works for me.
Good luck.
Ann