Noodle...
I am a complete control freak. I am now 6 months post-op (translab) and the hair thing is sort of a non issue. For the first 3 months the longer hair covers it up, and now I am just in the habit of pinning it back when I wear my hair up.
The chapstick is of utmost importance! I remember waking up in the recovery room and the nurse offering me vaseline for my lips, it was like the best experience of my life! I am a lip balm fiend, and the anesthesia really dries you out.
I had already lost 80% of my hearing before the surgery, so that wasn't really a concern for me, and to be honest... I kinda appreciate being able to tune the world out when I go to sleep now
I said from day one that facial paralysis would be OK with me, given the circumstances; but I didn't really think it would happen. When I woke up, and the ENT visited me he said I might have a facial nerve tumour (they later confirmed it was an AN though). I asked him, what this meant, and if I would be "ok", he replied, "the question is, will your face be ok?" I was like 1 day post-op at this point and didn't really care what I looked like (you learn to really overcome your pride in the hospital, LOL). I was home 5 days later and at that point realized that half of my face literally wouldn't move. I was definitely discouraged after a few months of NO movement. Then, about 3 weeks ago I noticed some very slight movement in the corner of my mouth. Now, at just over 6 months most op, my mouth can almost create a symmetrical smile and I feel great!
It's VERY daunting at first, but to be completely honest... if I had to do it all again, I really think I would. It's not as bad as you think it is. Yes the hospital week sucks, and recovery sucks, but you end up with a great story to tell, a better perspective on life, and a cool scar!!! Plus, now I can tell people that someone has touched my brain... not many people can say that. I remember the surgeon saying to me "your brain looked good", I was like "do you think he's coming on to me?" My hubby laughed, LOL!
You will be ok, it's much easier on the other side
I will be thinking of you on the 28th.