Hi Anna, it really sounds as if you are doing the right things with all your research!
I think you're right about the neurosurgeon, I was told after surgery by my intern doc how Dr. Schwartz tediously removed the sticky from radiation tumor from my facial nerve, worse because of the failed radiation. He left a 1% piece of the tumor on the nerve rather than cutting it, I was way ok with this.
There were so many docs involved throughout the surgery and recovery! After surgery, the docs had fellows to make the rounds, and some of them did also. But it was clear who was running the show. I guess this is really common, for docs and their "fellows". I had one that was SO great, young Dr. Goddard. Very patient, often and listened a lot....to the point he was telling me who some of the other docs were that came by and I didn't recognise or was kinda out of it on morphine.
I'm not big on drugs at all, they force many down you the first few days after surgery. And then I got off pain pills very soon, I think day 4. Only rarely do I take Tylenol or Advil type products. I did start taking ambien after taking steroids for 3 days after surgery, the steroids were the hardest for me.
best wishes, Melinda