Hi Marci,
Sorry I haven't been on in a couple of days. I'm sorry to hear everything you're going through. As if you didn't have enough to deal with already, menopause is enough to push anyone close to the edge. Are you taking meds to deal with the symptoms? I've been fortunate in that Estroven and Estroven PM has been enough to help me deal; with the physical symptoms but I know this isn't always the case. Hopefully, therapy will help you deal with the stress in your life. I"m glad to hear you're taking these issues seriously, as you know, without good physical and mental health, life is much harder. I hope your neurosurgeon can do something about your loose screw too, it's easy for someone to say it's nothing when it's not their head the loose screw is in.
Hang in there, rest and try not to stress too much (I know, easier said than done), we are here for you,
Wendy