Dan,
Sorry you have to go through this. We all know what it's like. Wish it was only hearsay, but we all happen to have first hand experience! :-~
You've gotten good advice. Confusing, but good. LOL. It's ALL confusing at this point. Because your tumor is small, you will have all of the options open to you. Mine was bigger and I had a few taken off of the 'recommended list' for me. In some ways I hated it, in other ways I loved that it shortened my decision making process. How could I ever live with myself if I chose the wrong thing? Thankfully, after meeting my neurosurgeon I had complete faith in his expertise and no longer felt like I needed to struggle with what to do.
We had a conference here in Vancouver (Canada) last weekend, and my neurosurgeon and my ENT surgeon were guest speakers. One of the repeated things they said was that they DO NOT like to operate whenever possible. The emphasis was on Watching and Waiting whenever possible for the small guys. In fact, they even gave a statistic to say that at around the 1.5 cm mark, they would start considering treatment options. The reason for that was that unfortunately, people often get 'new' problems when treated (additional hearing loss, or complete loss, balance issues worsen, etc). Having said that, yours is small but already causing you issues! As many people before me have said, there are no guarantees to how you will come out of this. A good neurosurgeon will be able to give you statistics and probabilities though, based on your specific tumor/location and the type of treatment you select.
What I wish for you is to meet a specialist that makes you feel at ease slightly (yes, it IS possible), where you know that you've chosen the right person. People kept telling me to wait for that, and sure enough-it happened.
It's not a fun journey, but things can be really good once you get to the other side. I'm 3.5 months out from surgery and good as new (except for the fact that I'm on crutches for a sprained ankle from my soccer game on Sunday night....but hey-I figure that's a GOOD problem to have! LOL It means I'm playing soccer again! :-)
Good luck with your decisions.
Adrienne