Hello - and welcome, Susan ~
Of course the initial AN diagnosis is intimidating and scary thoughts often take hold of us for a time but research and self-education about what you have and what you will do is the best disinfectant for removing bad ideas about your future. There is a huge amount of information available on the internet; a
Goggle search turns up 262,000 links with 'acoustic neuroma' in their title.
If it's any comfort, I was diagnosed with a large (4.5 cm) acoustic neuroma in June, 2006. I was 63 yeaqrs old and in relatively good health. The tumor was pressing hard on my brain stem and my symptoms (SSD, dizziness, loss of taste, intermittent stabbing pains at the AN site) were becoming debilitating. After looking at my MRI scan and putting me through a few rudimentary balance exercises (that I failed, miserably) The AN-experienced neurosurgeon I chose (30+ years performing AN removals) scheduled me for surgery a week later . Unexpected issues delayed the debulking surgery for another two weeks. However, the 9-hour surgery went very well. The tumor was cut down, it's blood supply removed and I had no post-op complications. My symptoms disappeared and I was out of the hospital within a few (5) days. My recovery was rapid and basically uneventful. I returned to driving within 2 weeks of my surgery and within a month things were back to normal. Of course, I was retired so I didn't have work issues to deal with (few are so fortunate) and my only child was an independent adult. My wife was a rock of support and factored into my quick recovery, walking with me (for miles) as I struggled (successfully) to regain my balance and generally, to get back in some kind of shape. Three months later, I underwent planned radiation treatments (FSR) to destroy the remaining tumor's DNA and effectively kill it. They were tedious but I suffered no side-effects and within 5 weeks, I was finished. Subsequent MRI scans have indicated tumor necrosis (cell death) and some shrinkage. My life is pretty much the same as it was. I do have a total loss of hearing in my left ear but I manage to cope with this in a way that is satisfactory to me. I also carry a few very minor 'reminders' of the experience but nothing that affects my quality of life. None of this is an anomaly. Many AN patients have similar experiences. Often, post-op problems are temporary. I experienced 'double vision' for 3 days, post-op. By the time I was discharged, it had disappeared. This is fairly typical.
Whatever you choose to do, I hope you'll do so with as much factual information as possible. AN surgery can be challenging but it is not the end of the world. These forums are a great source for such inforamation and the folks that post messages here are eager to befriend you and offer their advice and support...that includes me.
Please consider us as a resource. Thanks.
Jim