Generally speaking, the upper size limit for radiation treatment is 3cm.. What's also really important in treatment choice is location of the tumor.. If there is no brainstem involvement, then at 3cm you MIGHT be a candidate for radiation if it's done soon. If there is already brainstem involvement because of the known/expected swelling of the tumor size in radiation, doctors will shy away from radiation treatment...
Surgical options include the Translab, Retrosigmoid, Middle Fossa, and Endoscopic approaches... Translab and Retrosigmoid have been around and surgical approaches of choice for many years.. Middle Fossa is gaining steam right behind them and Endoscopic approach is only done by one doctor (don't know doctor's name, but it's Skull Base Institute in Los Angeles, CA).
Doctors tend to favor the approach that they're comfortable with. Not all doctors do all of the surgical approaches, so they'll "recommend" whatever approach they are comfortable with generally. It's not uncommon for you to consult House Clinic in LA and be told the "middle fossa is the way to go" and from Skull Base Institute be told the "endoscopic is the way to go" and then get a 3rd and 4th opion that differs from those for Translab and Retrosigmoid..
The decision on treatment is very personal and should line up with your own goals for the surgical outcome, the preference of the doctor who's doing the surgery, and your own personal rapport with that doctor. Many have said to let your "gut" guide you in making the decision.
With my 3cm tumor with already pretty severy brainstem involvement, I had little "choice" to make about treatments. Like you, I had hearing loss and tinnitus that were my only "presenting" symptoms.
Regards,
Brian