Welcome Bob!
I'm recently diagnosed and awaiting surgery. I, too, attributed the hearing loss to damage...it's been deteriorating for 10+ years, but I expected it to...when I was younger I went to so many rock concerts that my mom told me I would have hearing problems when I was older (I didn't protect my ears then). So finally this year I went to the audiologist to find out just how much hearing was gone, and how much I had in my good ear, that I found out that mom's theory was wrong (although, there have been studies that say that excessive noise might increase tumor growth rate). Now I'm stuck with a 3.1 thing in my head. I've been so hard of hearing in my right ear for so long, I'm not worried about losing that. My neighbor has a deaf daughter, and I don't have that fear as much as the facial nerve/balance thing as well. My only symptoms are hearing loss, tinnitus, and a fullness in the ear.
I agree with Paul, IMO if you are healthy and can keep up a good attitude, I think it increases your chance of doing well through treatment and recovery. It's like the power of prayer and positive thinking, it's just one more thing that you can do. I have spent the last two months getting stress out of my life, trying to increase my physical activity (I have had a foot issue for the last year and used to walk 5-6 miles 3+ times a week up until about 6 months ago), and telling everyone that I'm close to to add me to their prayers or thoughts. That is the good thing about this, most people have time to make these arrangements before treatment.
There are some pretty great people on this thread that will be right with you as you take this ride in life, and we love to share in each other's successes, and hold each other up for the lows. Sounds like you have a good family support system, which is great. I don't know what I would do if it weren't for mom, dad, and boyfriend, getting ready to do whatever it takes for however long to get me back up and running and well again. It puts my mind at ease for the surgery I face. And watching these threads about everything is great because I can work on educating them as well about what post surgery life might be like....as I'm sure you've read, the doctors generally don't fill you in on everything (like what Decadron is like).
Which side is your AN on? Where are you located? You have a lot of research to do and there is a weath of information here. You probably have both radiosurgery and microsurgery as an option. I didn't look too far into radiosurgery as I'm not a candidate. Anyway, we're here and there isn't a question that someone won't pipe up and give you thier experience/opinion on. Good luck and keep us posted!