Brookes ~
Let's just forget about the 'hair issue', which is pretty minor in the larger scheme of things. Instead, I'll do a bit of editorializing.
I'm sorry you have a perception that members with large post counts treat those with lesser post counts as inferior in any way. I hadn't noticed that but it seems to be glaringly obvious to you and that is unfortunate because it clearly taints your opinion of the ANA discussion forums. I can't speak for Jay ('jaylogs') but I'm sure you realize that that Jay didn't actually intend to discourage you. I would guess that he was just trying to be realistic and preparing you for any possible reversal in your recovery. That can occur, usually if you overdo it because you're anxious to resume your normal, post-AN life. I've read posts from post-op AN patients that had that unfortunate experience. That may not be scientific but it is real. Of course, I would hope that doesn't happen to you.
As a support site for AN patients, the message board posters uniformly attempt to be encouraging and positive but we also try not to be smiley-faced and unrealistic, as if nothing bad can ever happen to anyone who is experiencing a good recovery. On balance, I think the positive posts outweigh the negative by a huge margin and if you've done a lot of post reading, as you claimed, that should be obvious. If it is not, and you actually consider the folks that post here as 'intimidating', I really regret that but, after posting here for over 4 years and reading thousands of posts, I simply cannot agree with the perception. Let's just leave it at that.
Having editorialized as much as is prudent, I'll, again, offer you my hopefully non-intimidating congratulations on your successful surgery and splendid recovery. I trust it will continue apace.
Jim
By the way, I'm not grumpy, either, just garrulous. I can't help it, I was always this way.