Soundy, just read your whole thread and can only imagine what you're going through. I just wanted to add my two cents about assisted living. My mother has been in such a facility since a stroke three years ago and once you feel more comfortable with the care he is receiving there, you probably won't feel that he needs one of you there every day. It's hard to let go, but in most cases they really do receive excellent care and many become friends with other residents. I have only one sister who lives several hours away, so basically I am the sole visitor. I still visit my mom at least three times a week, but I also have realized how important it is for me to take care of myself, partly so I can be there for her. You need to do the same! How wonderful that you reached some kind of peace with your father, so much better for you both, even if he may not always know who you are now.
Hang in there! You have much support here. Please continue to keep us posted.
Denise D.
