I have to say, the only way I can see my abutment if if someone takes a picture of it and shows me. Maybe I need eyes on the side of my head?
I don't look at mine. I clean it in the shower and maybe once a week I use a baby toothbrush to give it a good scrubbing, but since it's healed, I don't really need to inspect it daily. If I had an issue, I'd probably just have my husband take a look and tell me if it looked okay. You also get used to what it is supposed to feel like so you can reach up and touch the area to see if it feels swollen or anything.
The doctor removes the soft tissue beneath the skin when he does the surgery, so some people actually have a little bald area around the abutment. I don't. I also have very thick hair and haven't had any problem keeping the abutment clean or attaching the processor. If your hair gets in the way, you can always have the person who cuts your hair trim it a bit around the abutment. My hairdresser in Nashville had another customer who was a BAHA wearer who used to need that done from time to time.
Once the area is healed and you're wearing your processor, it's much less maintenance and you won't need to be applying the peroxide or neosporin.
Hope June 22nd comes quickly for you!
Lori