Hi, Sarah:
Sorry to hear you're going through this. We all worry about this happening to us, whether we've had radiation or microsurgery.
First, is your doctor absolutely positive that yours is not a case of swelling (which can happen even three years post-treatment) or "MRI tolerance"? Regarding the latter, an increase of less than 2 mm, especially if it's just along one axis of measurement, might just be due to a different view of the tumor and not an increase in size. If, on the other hand, your tumor has increased 2 mm in size along two or three axes of measurement, or your doctor has seen serial smaller increases over the course of two or three MRIs (establishing a trend), then your tumor probably is increasing in size.
In any case, I would get a second opinion because reading MRIs (even in expert, professional circles) is a tricky, somewhat subjective affair in that the angle at which the measurements are taken are oblique and arbitrary (versus at exact right angles).
If you do need treatment again, (you know what I'm going to say, having been down this road before...), trust your gut as to which treatment you should choose. But do ask some questions before you choose. First and foremost, if it were me, I'd ask (two or more doctors) what they think the percentage chances of facial paralysis, hearing loss and headaches (the most common side effects) are with each treatment option. If it were me (and it's not; it's you and your life), I would choose whatever form of treatment stands the best chance -- in percentage terms -- of giving me the best quality of life post-treatment.
Once again, sorry to hear you're going through this.
Best wishes,
TW