Hi Rose .....
So glad you have a date for surgery. Now you can concentrate on doing fun things with your family and friends between now and then ...... it really helps to keep your mind off things. You also might want to tie up any loose ends of unfinished things that might "bug" you afterwards. Some of us fixed and froze easy meals to use afterwards, etc.
Re the external ear ...... or any other outward physical parts ..... your external ear will look exactly the same. I am not a doctor, but I believe it is standard practice with translab surgery to harvest fat from your abdomen to pack into the spaces where the mastoid bone and internal ear workings are removed. Some patients have noted that their skull did have an indentation in the area ..... I do not, although my skull is somewhat "lumpy" from three craniotomies ..... nothing that my hair does not easily cover.
There are at least a couple of other hearing options besides the bone-anchored hearing devices ..... Transear (
http://www.transear.com/) and SoundBite (
http://www.sonitusmedical.com/product/technology.cfm) are two that come to mind.
My abutment for the Oticon Medical Ponto Pro was put in at the same time as my translab surgery. Technically I was supposed to wait three months for the abutment to osseointegrate (integrate into the bone). At a month mine was virtually healed but I had to wait until it was almost three months to attach the processor for the first time. Let me note that at no time did I have any pain in either the surgical site or around the abutment.
For all three of my brain surgeries, I had to wait a week before shampooing my hair. After the translab/abutment surgery, the stitches were removed and the abutment protective pad was removed 8 days post-op and I was given the OK to go ahead and shower and shampoo normally. As I recall I did use Bacitracin around the abutment for a few days, but then no special treatment except to keep it clean with Baby Wipes. Much later I began using the soft brush around it a couple times a week. (They will give you specific instructions on this.)
Oticon makes four colors for the processors (
http://www.oticonmedical.com/Medical/OurProducts/Sound%20Processors/Design.aspx) so I chose the White Silver and it completely blends in/covered by my hair.
The reason you do not want to wait is to avoid the tumor growing onto the adjacent facial nerve or wrapping around the brain stem, causing a much more difficult removal procedure without damage.
Many thoughts and prayers.
Clarice