I have to agree with Jim, as usual, good advice.. It will probably change your personality some at least to begin with. I just had my surgery Oct 27th so am about 4 weeks out and I am definitely having personality issues,, I had my facial nerve severed so have facial paralysis and eye focus issues although that is getting better,, but I am not as eager to get in public as I once was, but suspect that will change some as things get better,, the eye issues keep me from seeing well to my right and can not just glance at something off that side without moving entire head,, also the SSD, ,deafness,, is really hard to adjust to at least now.. I did go out to eat this weekend in a restaurant, but it was kinda difficult, hubby insisted I try,,thankfully we had a table in the back so I could face the wall,,,,,,,,,,,,,,Dr told me to get out and live life and realize that I will not always be "this way",, things will get better in a few months.. so I am trying. but you don't feel like yourself,, cause in my case anyway,, I am NOT exactly my old self, but I must move forward accepting who I am now and will be in the next few months...patience is a virtue that I am having to develop much more of.. I also agree that "things" do not matter like they used to,, and seeing people laugh and be "normal" is really hard right now, although I am sure that too will get better,, but it reminds you of what you don't have anymore,,yes I am glad it was not cancer and things are not really that bad,, but in reality it is still hard to get used to the "new" me,, sorry for the venting, and don't mean to sound so negative, but this is how I feel right now just 4 weeks out,, I am hoping 4 mos. out will be MUCH better,!! good luck,,