Thank you all for your thoughtful replies.
Perhaps I'm venting a bit - but I do think its important for people to know the possible outcomes.
When I first contemplated the BAHA, there really wasn't anything anywhere posted about complications or issues.
Now, not only do I see others posting problems with their BAHA too, but my Dr. claims he treats many other patients with BAHA's complications and he no longer recommends them. He is recommending the Cross hearing system (sp?) - At this point, I'm not concerned about improving my hearing but eliminating the pain issues from the baha post/abutment, whatever.
Regarding it helping with hearing - it did seem to help, but only in very limited environments.
For me there is almost always some background noise/music that it would amplify only increasing the sounds in my head, rather than clarity of voice, etc. This too could be problems with my specific device, which I had replaced and adjusted many times...