Alison,
the size limits are very subjective. Generally for SRS the volume of the tumor counts, rather than the size in any given dimension. Also, the way sizes are reported can vary. I see in your signature that the size of your tumor is 14 mm x 10 x 8. This most likely means that the 14 mm measurement (which is the transverse measurement) includes the portion that is inside the IAC. Commonly in radiosurgery the spherical portion, inside the CPA is more important, because it contributes more to the volume. So the 20 mm limit may refer to the spherical portion of the tumor.
In your case it is likely that this portion is less than 14 mm, and the other dimensions are very small. So without being a doctor, it seems to me that the tumor is quite small and growth shouldn't be a problem, given the slow rate of growth of these tumors. However it is best to mention these concerns to the radiation oncologist and get his/her opinion.
Marianna