Here's a little update on my husband, as promised, 9 days post-op at Hopkins:
They got the whole tumor! It was benign! They had to cut the facial nerve because it was too involved going directly through the middle of the tumor... They were able to reattach it, and the docs give him a 50/50 chance of the nerve regenerating within the next year without intervention. The facial paralysis specialist there, Dr. Boahene, put a platinum weight in his eyelid to help it close completely, which is definitely doing it's job currently. He said we have options if the nerve does not regenerate itself.
Our experience there was good overall. Dr. Tamargo personally came to visit my husband every day he was in the hospital (except Sunday, and he assured us on Saturday that, if there were any issues, he would come in Sunday), and Dr. Chien (neurotologist) also came several times. They repeatedly reassured us that everything was going as expected, given his situation. We had the feeling that they knew their stuff and cared specifically about my husband's situation. The nurses and physical therapists were OUTSTANDING, very carefully taking care of my husband, but also thinking about the family and making sure we had what we needed to help him.
I'm happy to answer any specific questions if you want to send me a private message!