I have noticed that! I had come to the same conclusion. Surgeons not only don't have bedside manner, they don't have manners at all. All but one of the ones I worked with were the rudest and most arrogant of dudes. They are very good at surgery, and sometimes other things, but not people skills.
I worked with/for doctors for years and the surgeons were always cold fish. I actually remember a discussion in a hospital elevator where a surgeon said, "well they knew he was going to die from this eventually, so I don't understand why they were so upset. They were all crying. It's very strange." Um. He was genuinely puzzled by grief.
I am still not sure what the outcome will be for my teeny little tumor. It isn't threatening anything but my hearing, and balance, and quality of life. It's very small. Nobody recommends cutting it out. But the acute symptoms are life changing. Chronic ones I can adjust to, but what is going on now is making it very hard to work, live, pay bills, exist, function, talk, sleep......I need help. I need help badly. It's like having a demon in there eating my ear, and it's getting meaner and meaner by the month.