Hi Michelle,
Reading your post brings back so many emotions. My husband's recovery was, and still is, complicated. Most people come out of this surgery and get back with their lives with out missing too many beats. My husband is 5 1/2 years out, and his life has changed due to complications from the surgery. He is SSD, facial paralysis which has improved, but his eye doesn't close, he has cognitive deficits, and emotional changes, too. 5 1/2 years ago the general response was that if you were still having problems, you just weren't trying hard enough, or you were a malingerer. People who say that have no idea what it is like to be dizzy, have balance issues, unrelenting headaches, facial paralysis, extreme fatigue, SSD, executive functioning deficiencies, and then mental health issues as a result. There seems to be more awareness within the medical community that this is a very complicated surgery, and these post-surgery issues can have a profound impact on one's life. I get very angry when people attribute their good outcomes to their positive attitudes and doing everything "right". We did everything right, but Ken still experienced long-term, life changing complications. You aren't alone, and the more we speak up the better.