Hi Char, I'm sorry to hear about your issues. I had a perfectly healed head with no issues, but my Baha odyssey has created lumpy, painful scarring, and I also have to be very careful when lying on that side at night (smooth pillowcase, create a divot in the pillow, make sure ear is flat, don't move!, etc.) I don't have any issues with the abutment itself, but I've read a lot on the Cochlear community site, and it sounds like a lot of people use a steroid cream regularly to reduce inflammation. I'm not sure if you've already tried that or if it will help, but it would be something to consider before having it removed. If you have trouble sleeping all the time--not only when there is an infection--it might not get better? Just something to consider. I'm thinking of having mine reprogrammed with another audiologist and see if it can work any better. Slightly disappointed with the results as well.