Hi Patriots2, I know from experience how painful the eye issues can be! It was truly the worst part of my experience. I have a couple of suggestions. If someone recommends an eyelid weight, I would take them up on it. I was too vain, but I wish I had. It's just a theory, but I think the fact that it helps your eyelid produce a natural movement will help your nerves heal properly (assuming your facial paralysis is temporary...was your nerve severed or intact following surgery?)
Along those same lines, try to remember to close your eyelid downward gently with your fingertips instead of pushing your bottom lid up. I know it's easier to push from the bottom, but I think you start to get your cheek muscles involved, which may increase the chance of synkinesis. Again, these are just my theories and not proven.
Use small, natural movements as you are healing instead of trying to get your facial muscles to do something they are not currently wired to do. Even as your nerves start to regenerate, don't force anything. It will all come back as much as it supposed to, but you don't want the extra unwanted facial movements if you can avoid it. I wish you the very best!