Where can I go for help?

[LizH]

Where can I go for help? I  really need help at home. I live alone and my 2 brothers who live far away from me don't seem to want to to help by offering me accomodation in their homes. I have never been married and have no kids. Performing daily chores such as cooking, doing the dishes, cleaning myself are a hassle. I am broke so I can't even hire help. In fact, I am wondering where I will end up living in 2 months time when I will have no money to pay the rent and even to pay the health insurance premium. I have not worked the last 5 months and have depleted my savings. I am in trouble now.

[Laura]

Effiya, it sounds like it's time to reach out to your very close friends and your church family. There may also be programs in your community that could assist. I'm not sure if it's totally for the elderly but what about Meals on Wheels to bring food daily? You could also check with neighborhood kids. With Christmas coming I'm sure there are kids out there that would be willing to help for a few dollars. Enough to make them happy but not break the bank? Good luck and God bless!

Do your brothers not realize how serious this surgery can be?

Laura

[LizH]

Thank you, Laura, thank you Bruce. On Saturday I called St Vincent de Paul. I didn't get anyone so I left a voicemail message. Yesterday, I called the Jewish Family Services and Catholic Family Services yesterday. Again, I didn't get anyone so I left messages, but no one has returned my call. I probably need to call again. I called these two organisations upon the advice of a disability lawyer I am working with now.

[Palace]

Hello:


Let me ask you, "what can you do?"  Perhaps someone you could find through a church or charitable organization could trade with you if you could care for a dog or ?  Some people have a small "grandma house" right out back and could work something out. 

There must be a way as, people are out there buying things for the holiday that they don't need.

Check back with us on the forum often.



Hugs,



Palace

[Raydean]

Please call your area Agency on Aging and explain your situation.  These people are amazing and will know hook you up with the programs that will help, such as chore service and home health.  You may not be a senior citizen yet, but explain the situation.  I am sure that they will be able to you headed in the right direction.

Hugs
raydean

[LizH]

Thanks Raydean, thanks Palace. I have just spoken to someone from the Jewish family Services. She can't help me. She can get me someone to work for me for money but no volunteers. I also spoke to a reverend sister from St. Vincent de Paul, she said she is just too far from me to get me help where she is physically located. I just wanted contacts in my area from her. I will call social services. I can't believe that it is this difficult to get help when you are disabled like I am now. I am not in Newark NJ but somewhere close by.

[Palace]

Hello again....


I think 55 is the age for a senior to join the Senior C. groups that have those places to meet, eat, etc.  Perhaps calling them and asking questions might help.  You are getting close to that age and they might at least give you some ideas.  It sounds like you may have to relocate.



Bye for now,



Palace