Sorry For your diagnosis but you have found a wonderful site with a multitude of information from people in your situation or who have been through treatment already. The ANA will also send you a packet of info and booklets that will prove to be very helpful and informative if you haven’t reached out for it yet.
It sounds like you have done your due diligence already and have decided who and what you want to do to treat the AN. That’s a big step. I would just make one suggestion that you may not be aware of, if I may. You can get a complementary consult over the phone with a Dr from the House Ear Clinic in Los Angeles by just sending them a copy of your latest MRI and some other info. They will review the MRI and call you to discuss their opinion of treatment options with you. No obligation.
I did this back in 2009 and spoke with Dr Slattery over the phone. VERY nice Dr and very patient and informative. He even called the next year to see how I was after I chose not to travel out there. House Clinic is one of the first, if not THE first, clinic to perform surgery on ANs in the country.
There is also Dr Rick Friedman, who used to practice at House, and has moved to UCStanford, I think it is,,,,, he is also highly recommended. There are other places that will do complementary consults also.
Just another option as you said you wished you could get some consensus on treatment options. It may be worth looking into as a resource.
Good luck to you . I only offer my help,, it’s up to you all the way. I know it was a hard decision for me. We are so used to a dr telling us how to proceed with surgery that being left up to us to decide is difficult. But as you say, YOU have to be confident and secure in the ultimate decision you make.
We are all here to help!! Glad you found the ANA!
Jane