Hey carriekartman,
I normally don't check these forums frequently enough but this one stood out, due to my personal experience.
Not sure if you're still checking these, since it's been a few months.
I had my dx on Oct 24, 2023 and a couple weeks afterwards had appointments back to back with all three of these doctors. It was a rough day. Lots of information. I had my partner with me and she helped take notes.
I saw Dr. Xu, then Sheridan then Pross. Pross is the ENT and was probably the most helpful and most emphatic. He pointed to some studies, he is the one who let me know about the AN website, which I feel is a must for anyone newly diagnosed, and felt like I could have a conversation with and ask questions.
He also responded quickly to any emails afterwards with additional links to various recent information.
Dr.Xu talked mostly about microsurgery details, different approaches, outcomes and she seemed to be running through all the jargon w/o allowing for any questions until she was finished. Dr.Sheridan seemed a little standoffish to us. He was very brief. He said radiosurgery is possible but very likely hearing loss would be inevitable from the procedure, otherwise, he almost seemed uninterested or not concerned?
Anyway, all of them at the time suggested to wait and see (due to my tumor size) and seemed like they tried to reassure me that I might not even require surgery. I feel they were knowledgable but I did not feel a lot of confidence or reassurance (maybe that's unfair given this condition).