Hi, Dave:
Welcome to the forum that we all wish we didn't need but are glad to have available. Lots of 'watch-and-waiters' post here, so you're in good company.
I guess that I was almost fortunate to be able to by-pass an ENT and deal with just my primary care physician. He had referred me to an ENT some years earlier for my single-sided deafness, but I decided not to go. I already
knew I couldn't hear out of my left ear and I assumed the ENT specialist couldn't do much for me. Perhaps I was correct. I'll never know for certain but I've seen many posts stating that an ENT physician wasted patient's time (and money) by misdiagnosing them. They often seem to be clueless about the possibility of a patient having an acoustic neuroma tumor - or they simply don't consider ordering the MRI scan that would either identify or rule out an AN as a cause of the symptoms a patient is exhibiting and that ear medications are not addressing. Your ENT sounds like the kind of doctor that gives other doctors a bad reputation. I'm glad you decided to cut him loose.
In May, 2006, I presented my primary care physician with a 'sudden' - six months - loss of appetite (I lost 30 pounds), profound listlessness and, of course, my now long-term (5 years) single-sided deafness. He ordered an MRI (looking for a sinus problem) and found the AN tumor, instead. He called me the evening he received the MRI report - at home, from his home. He offered his sympathy (not all that reassuring) and referred me to a surgeon (I eventually went with a different surgeon). I had retrosigmoid surgery less than a month later, FSR 3 months following. No real complications. I 'm happy to report that I'm doing very well, almost a year out of surgery. While my 'AN experience' will necessarily be a part of my life history (and my medical record), My AN is quickly becoming a distant memory - and that's fine with me. I continue to visit this site and post on the forums in order to help and encourage others and to offer whatever advice I can. I'm pleased that you find the site and forums helpful. That's our 'mission'.
I hope your AN stays dormant but at least radiation remains an option, if necessary. Thanks for posting. Stay well.
Jim